Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Oh By The Way...

A phrase that's really starting to get underneath my skin.....

Now I'm not going to say never....but I would say 90% of the time...anything that comes after "oh by the way"....usually means...I'm not going to like it....whatever it may be...

Especially when my husband starts out a conversation with those four....very disturbing...quite irritating...words....

Yesterday was the epitomy of why I'm starting to have issues with said catch phrase....

This time it was...."oh by the way"....."I"m deploying in two weeks"....

I'm sorry....what?.....

not to add insult to injury....but is there a methodology as to Why he springs this phrase at a time when I finally get comfortable with planning things again?......Which I fully understand goes against everything I've learned about being a military wife.....never plan anything...

I LOVE what my husband does....and I LOVE being a military wife...but sometimes....I would like to be able to plan something more than 3 weeks in advance....just one time....

I've learned to count my blessings...and that sometimes it's more about winning small battles...than winning the war....and I am so extremely happy that Juice was able to spend Pooh's first birthday at home....It helped make up for the lost holidays we have had...

It's just...

I think that the "oh by the way" this week....has just really bummed me out....not only is Juice going to miss Father's Day....again.....but also has to make a call to his brother now....to say he can't stand up with him at his wedding...

I hate it....that he has to feel like he's letting others down....and I hate that the first day he "oh by the ways" me......I somehow always think about myself....not nice....bad me.....

wow...that sounds whiney....see what "oh by the way" has reduced me too?....

I do think there is a provision in the "military wife handbook"...that allows for moments dealing with "oh by the ways".....page 52 I think....

It always turns out the same....the cycle.....

Oh by the way.....moves to me being a wee bit selfish......moves to me being a wee bit selfless....moves to homecomings......


I just wish he could come up with another phrase...

18 comments:

Jodi said...

Oh, so sorry! That has to be so hard. I agree, Oh by the way, usually isn't followed but, "You win a million dollars!" Have a good day!

StampinMom said...

Oh hun, I'm so sorry. I don't know how you military wives do it...it just makes my heart sink. But you know your bloggy pals are here to support you.

Jamie :)

beth said...

i think yo are totally justified in being selfish there. i can't imagine how you deal with it day to day once he's gone. my hat is off to you. hang in there!

Stacie's Madness said...

:( so Sorry.

thank you to all the military families!

Jaden Paige said...

Ahh, yes, I know that phrase!

I'm sorry about your bad news... How stinky that he will miss his brother's wedding AND Father's Day :(

Hope his deployment isn't for long, so you can be reunited before you know it!

Evolving Mommy Catherine said...

I can't imagine how you must feel. I get that first wave of selfish feelings often times too, I think it is pretty normal to think about how things are affecting you.

Little Miss Baker said...

I love your blog :) Found you through SITS and just love it! Hang in there sista...

Bethany said...

Keep your chin up! I know it's hard.

Kristin said...

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how hard that is. You're allowed to be selfish!

Rachael said...

so sorry to hear he is heading out soon, 'oh by the way' stinks :(

TurtleMommy said...

oh what a bummer! I'm so sorry this deployment was sprung on you guys so quickly. My husband just left for the second time last weekend. Its not fun. One day at a time and they will be home safe and sound!!! =]

Dorkys Ramos said...

Aww I'm sorry. This stinks! I can only imagine how hard it must be to have to say goodbye again, but just think on the return and the times you did get to enjoy together.

K said...

I'm sorry. I'm a planner and I would struggle with the "oh by the way"s as well.

Good luck.

Rebekah said...

I am so sorry! I can only imagine what you are feeling this week. I don't know how you military wives do it!

Mary K Brennan said...

Oh, by the way, I stopped by this awesome blog and became a follower. There you have it. Oh by the way followed with good news. Cheer up, and keep blogging. It helps keep your mind off that not so great times.

April said...

OMG......I seriously could not live your life.....it's got to be soooooo hard......I am sitting here in tears when I think about the sacrifice that our military families make for all of us.......WE LOVE YOU!

Sapphire said...

What's a blog for if you can't do a little whining? I think you have the right idea. You and Juice should come up with new code word so you don't have to deal with any more OBTWs.
Just stopped by from SITS and realized that you are a fellow Welcomista!

The Me/ The Wife/ The Mom said...

Oh, Man, I'm so sorry! I'm sending you warm hugs and wishes that the next "oh by the way" is Honey... I'm coming home.

Hearts, thoughts and prayers for you and your family!